Blog for mental health – no more stigma

mental health, blog for mental health, mental illness, depression, loneliness, isolation, alientation, lonely feelings, full of life, dying of loneliness, bored and lonely, stuck, friendship, connection, well, ill, suicide, suicidal, feelings, emotionsI pledge my commitment to the Blog For Mental Health 2013 Project.  I will blog about mental health topics not only for myself, but for others.  By displaying this badge, I show my pride, dedication, and acceptance for mental health.  I use this to promote mental health education in the struggle to erase stigma.

After five family bereavements in 14 months, I had a melt-down in 2008 which had a serious impact on my business, on friendships and work relationships, on my finances and my whole way of life. It resulted in a huge change – leaving the country and starting a very different life in Europe. The peace and clarity of the mountains gave me back the ability to think, but it took years to reach the point of being able to go back into the ‘real’ world. For many reasons, I wouldn’t turn the clock back as, despite the bad bits, I have learned so much and found so much good in the process. I would only wish to undo the damage I unwillingly caused to others.

This blog is a major route to putting something back, to sharing what I’ve learned and, maybe, giving people some new options to getting out of deep ruts.

Two good ones to read:

Knocked over by a feather

A canvas of the minds


Look forward to a cure

Hello, good day, and welcome. This is a blog about loneliness – or rather, curing it. If you know anyone who’s lonely, or you’ve ever felt lonely yourself, you will have a good idea how horrible it feels and how it affects your life, and even your health.

I’ve been thinking, researching and developing a programme to help people cure themselves of loneliness, but I need your help. The blog isn’t about me – it’s about you, and people you know. I want to hear about other people’s experiences of loneliness, and how they cope with it. I will share bits of research, quotations from writers, philosophers and artists about their lonely feelings, wild ideas, thoughts, curiosities, speculation, news of campaigns, and much more. So I hope you’ll share, too.

Who am I? I’m an English writer and teacher, living in a remote mountain village in Transylvania, five miles from the nearest town and a long way from friends and family in England, where I lived until 2010. My neighbours called me pustnic, which means hermit or recluse, and it’s true that I love my solitude and last year rarely ventured out of the village except for basic shopping. It’s great seeing friends who come to stay, and I love meeting people who are visiting the village and come for a cup of tea or a bit of lunch. But it’s always good to be alone, living quietly and simply in my little Carpathian bubble, far removed from the world of urban pressures and stress. In April 2011 my brother in law said that if I could explain why I was able to live alone, and in such a remote place, and not be lonely, other people would be intrigued. The idea took root, and here we are.