Non-attachment -v- loneliness

2011: The Year of Planned Abandonment

The Year of Planned Abandonment (Photo credit: benrmatthews)

Interesting article, this (read it HERE) – but I think the writer used the wrong word.

“Abandonment” is a passive term to imply that you have been abandoned, ie it wasn’t your choice, and you don’t like it. There are lots of very negative emotions resulting from the feeling of abandonment, whether it first happened when you were a child, or at any stage afterwards. It’s closely related to rejection, which is never comfortable…

Having read the article, I think what they’re talking about is the Buddhist concept of non-attachment – not hanging on to things in the past, needing very few material baggage, and carrying minimal emotional baggage. it’s interesting to see how similar the Christian and Buddhist teachings are on this, although of course Christians are taught to put their faith in God, where Buddhists are encouraged to take responsibility for their own lives.

The essential argument of the article, though, is hard to deny – the more we think we need Stuff, and depend on others (human or divine) to make our lives better, the more we are likely to be disappointed.

And that lovely point about health insurance – how true! Do you recognise that paradox?

Whether, like me, you’re not of a religious bent, or have a strong faith, I’d love to know what you feel about this article. Do please leave me a comment.

English: pink lily flower

English: pink lily flower (Photo credit: Wikipedia)


2 comments on “Non-attachment -v- loneliness

  1. Dion Burn says:

    I think the “abandonment” he speaks of is a giving over of one’s self to a higher power, though I don’t see the connection he’s trying to make to loneliness.

    • Arabella says:

      You’re right – I think that’s what he was getting at, but linking ‘abandonment’ with loneliness too firmly implies being abandoned, rather than abandoning one’s stuff, one’s fears etc. I imagine he was suggesting that we can all hand our future over to God, trust that we will then be provided for, and that if we’re with God, we need never feel lonely again. It’s a point of view…

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