Instead of being furious with the world and everything in it, turn the dial 180 degrees and sympathise with what or whoever is driving you bonkers.
Objects that are being obstreporous really aren’t. You might be clumsier than normal at the moment; perhaps there’s a sun flare and everything’s a bit haywire; maybe the mistake was yours because you were distracted, or depressed, or anxious. There are times when things need a damned good thrashing; there really are. But it won’t really help unless the act of thrashing said sorry object has relieved your frustration…
People… ah, people. Designed to drive one up the pole, round the bend and into a blue fit. But mostly they don’t mean it. The snotty-nosed heap of parrot droppings who is testing your sanity may have limitless reasons for being irritating, smug, useless, lazy, dense, abusive… etc., et al., ad inf. Almost none of those reasons will have any connection to you. Your misfortune is come up against said heap when it is incapable of doing anything else but vexing you.
This is applicable to friends, colleagues, bosses, traffic wardens, complete strangers and call centre staff. It doesn’t necessarily apply to family, who know precisely what will wind you up and to what degree. For family and anyone else who won’t call the police, give them a big hug and a chocolate, and ask them what you can do to cheer them up.
Where I’m going with this (and I’m sure you’ve been wondering) is that going through one day, let alone your whole life, feeling murderous or merely peevish is not the way to win friends and influence anyone. It won’t help feeling resentful towards everybody because you’re not them and they don’t understand how shitty your life is. If they cared before, they won’t give a damn once they’ve endured a few of your snide comments or churlish remarks.
So lighten up. Smile. If you can’t bring yourself to smile, watch this. (All you need to know is that the music playing on their radio is The Stripper). If a smile doesn’t cheer your tormentor, then smile anyway and don’t get sucked into their misery. There’s enough in the world already.
- Does the world drive you mad? (Bit 1) (arabellafulloflife.wordpress.com)